Are you pursuing men without realising it?!

One night you meet a man, the chemistry is amazing, you feel cool shivers of electricity running up and down your spine

You laugh, dance, kiss and it feels amazing. 5 hours feels like minutes have passed. You’re totally present and in the moment

You feel beautiful, fun, loving, sexy and deliciously happy

He takes your number

You feel sure he’ll call the next day because wow, it was so special…

But the next day passes, and then then next and the next

No call

Your heart sinks, you go in to anxiously over analysing, was it something you said? Did?

You start to wonder if he’s had some sort of terrible accident. Then you decide that’s stupid and can’t be true…

You do lots of visualisation, imagining him picking up the phone and calling you, and you sounding oh so relaxed when you answer

You try hard to will your vision into existence

This doesn’t work so you decide to ‘play hard to get’ switch your phone off and go to the cinema hoping that he’ll call during the film and you’ll be unavailable

‘Coz then you can wait a little while before ‘casually’ getting back to him and making it sound like your life is so busy and great that you hadn’t really noticed he hadn’t called

Does some version of this sound familiar?!

Outwardly, it looks like you aren’t doing anything but INWARDLY YOU ARE THE PURSUER

Your soul is chasing that man

You’re trying to change your outward behaviour to manipulate an outcome

Believing that the look over rules the actual energy of what you’re doing

Believing that the outside is more important than the inside

Believing… IDK that men are stupid and what you DO is more important than who you BE

Will this ‘work’? And obviously by ‘work’ what is really meant is ‘will this bring that man to you?!’ Maybe occasionally

So many women come to me saying some version of how ‘they’re doing all the ‘right things’ like leaning back, waiting before responding to his messages, letting him be the initiator

But my Loves it’s not about what you’re doing, it’s about the energy you’re doing it with

As I said, if you are trying to will that man to call you or employing strategy’s to look ‘cool’ when really you would drop anything in a hot minute if he called you, then YOU ARE THE PURSUER

And he may not consciously be able to name that but HE WILL BE FEELING THAT SOMETHING IS OFF

It just won’t feel really good to him when he thinks about you

And the reason why it doesn’t feel good to him is that you are in his role, you’ve done him out of his job!

This is where the inner work comes in – so that inwardly your energy matches your outward actions

Are you ready for that transformation?!